
Wives submit to your husbands.
Ouch! Are you kidding me?! Sure. Ok. Whatever!
These are some of the replies we voice when someone tells us we are suppose to submit to our husbands. What does the word actually mean anyway? According to the dictionary the word submit means - to yield oneself to the power or authority of another. The word submissive means - inclined or ready to submit; unresistingly or humbly obedient.
OBEDIENT!!! Are you kidding me! Am I suppose to be obedient to my husband? Obedience is so much more fun when we are referring to our children and telling them to be obedient or maybe even when we desire to be obedient to God. But obedience to our husbands. What in the world.
Well, if we desire to be obedient to God we have to be submissive to our husbands. Now, that does not mean we are door mats, sit back and do nothing or let him lead us to ways that are not God's ways.
Now for the apply it to my life part...
Paul and I are visiting other churches. After much prayer, we felt that God was leading us somewhere else. The whole leaving one church to attend another is not easy. Especially, if you have NOT moved. If you move to another city you have to find a new church. No one really thinks anything of it. But, if you feel that God is leading you somewhere else and you decide to be obedient, it can get messy. People assume you are ticked at the church and are leaving for negative reasons. Then people say, "Oh, those poor sinners, they left our church and now they are backslidden and listening to false teaching." Or some might say,"I hate to see you go, but I understand if you feel that God is leading you somewhere else."
(I like that one) We all care about what other people think, esp. our christian friends. We wish we didn't care what people think, but we do. We want others to see us as men and women of God and be a good advertisement for the christian life in order to lead others to Christ. So, how do we go about all this? Good question.
Back to the submission thing. I decided (actually God told me) that I should allow Paul to make the decision about what church we visit. Well, isn't that just precious of me, to actually be obedient and let the man lead. I am just so spiritual and he may need me to take the lead. (ha ha) I am the mom, I know what the kids need. I know what questions to ask. I mean, I did attend seminary. Does the church believe the way we do or do they ask you to bring your own snake? How will he ever be up to the task? Well, believe it or not the man does have a brain and spiritual bones in his body. It is amazing what can happen when we sit back, keep our mouths shut and be obedient. No fun, I want to take charge. First, I have be obedient and now you want me to be PATIENT too.
What will people say? Where will the husband take us. Will we hinder the upbringing of our youngins by going somewhere else? Are there other churches out there? Will I meet genuine christian friends? It can be very lonely visiting other churches, not knowing people and not seeing your friends. These are all questions and concerns. But guess what? God is in control and He WILL lead us. My job is to listen and be obedient.